A Little At A Time

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My dad called me yesterday, and left me a message on my phone, wishing me a happy birthday. The last time he called it was to know if he could come over and bring me tomatoes. I don't return the calls, but my heart is not frozen. I do care, and every time I don't respond, I wonder if it is the right thing to do. I have found forgiveness, but the trust has to be earned, and by not letting him in, I'm not giving him that chance. I go back and forth in my mind. Yesterday he sent me a friend request on Facebook, and I accepted it. I also sent him a message and thanked him for calling and wishing me a happy birthday. I'm thinking that I will just take this slow and careful. I don't like how I feel every time I ignore his attempts at contact. Maybe I can try to open up my heart a little bit at a time.

Comments

Isla Lynn said…
I do hope you and your dad get on better terms. Start out slow...
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Hillary63 said…
Thank you Angela for being such a loving generous compassionate soul. You have helped me so much.

It's ok to open your heart in any speed fashion or shape you wish, it's your heart.
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
June_Butterfly said…
I guess I can relate to your feelings.Me and my dad kinda drifted apart since my parents separated.But in time some of the pain lessened and fortunately I was able to see him before he passed away.I hope in time the road to forgiveness can be easier for you.
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Just me said…
I feel like I can relate to this - with a friend, not a parent - and I was moved by your honesty and compassion here. Thanks for sharing this. I think taking it slowly is a good idea - I understand why you don't want to rush into anything. I hope you can come to a situation that works for both of you :)
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Ann said…
it's sounds like you are doing a good job of slowly opening your heart. Slow is a good way to go that way you can't get scared off too quick
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Eve said…
Wow! Angela, I think that you are doing the brave thing in trying to let someone in. I love that you are doing what is best for you in doing it slowly! You are making brave steps! I am very proud of you and I love you!
Sunday, September 04, 2011
Heather Jerdee said…
I think that is so wise Angela for you and your father. "Open your heart a little at a time." I want to shut some people out completely right now. Both of my parents are on the top of the list but there some others too. And I know that is not healthy. I'm glad we are not alone. Love you
Monday, September 05, 2011
Sia Jane said…
I don't know the story...
I do know that how you are handling the situation if amazing and you should feel very proud.
Harbouring anger is something that can be so destructive and I guess finding that balance between forgiveness, but not forgetting, is hard.
But you seem to be doing a wonderful job <3
Monday, September 05, 2011
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